2026 plans

I'm not immune to January goal setting excitement

Hello!

It’s a quick one from me this week as I’m just here to wish you a happy new year.

For this year, I wish you confidence to articulate your needs and desires, the conviction to start, the strength to leave, the strength to stay, the ability to let go, the ability to hold on, and the playfulness to have fun. Mostly though, I wish you a year filled with good health and the sort of love that makes life worthwhile — the deepest of friendships, the kindest partners, the most peaceful family ties. And finally, if it’s where you are in your journey and what you desire from this year, I wish you pleasureful, enjoyable, affirming, secure, hilarious, loving sex.

Me? Well, I have a whole list of things that I want to do in 2026 so I’ve come to you to share some of ‘em — mostly so that you hold me accountable, and because you might be able to help me in parts!

1. Run four Brown Bodies Live! events. Last year, we ran two. I can’t tell you how amazing it’s been to hear people say it was one of their fave events of 2025. So this year, to not stress me out at all, we’re going to double it: two in London, one in NYC, and one in Toronto — or that’s the goal, anyway. I could really do with your support with introductions to dreamy potential guests!

   If you want to partner on an event (like we did with LELO and see u irl last year), then also give me a shout.

2. Interview more queer people. I expected it to be challenging, of course, but I know I also need to be more proactive. Again, would love suggestions/intros. I’ve got a few names on my hit list.

3. Write a piece on the legacy of colonial attitudes towards sex. I mention it so often but I want space for real conversation, not just passing remarks. I’ve just finished reading Empireworld by Sathnam Sanghera and it’s fired me tf up. I think I’ve been scared because empire chat gets a lot of backlash but now I know things I thought to be true have research to back them up, I’m out of excuses. I’m hoping to gift myself a proper piece for my birthday (in May). I’m also planning on dragging a few experts in to help me because they can’t refuse me if I say it’s my birthday present…

4. Launch a video series. A few of you already know this is in works because I don’t know how to keep my mouth shut. I had hoped to get recording by the end of 2025, but priorities (like people needing to pay their rent and, therefore, having to do their day jobs) got in the way. But it’s coming. I’ll take any advice, thoughts, moral support, etc.

5. Interview Ambika Mod. Enough said. Three course meal for the person who makes this happen.

Thank you for being here and for letting me create, slowly, this cosy corner of the internet for conversations I’ve always wanted to have. I’m excited for another year of learning alongside you.

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To wrap up, if you’re back to commuter life from tomorrow, feel free to steal some stuff from my to read/watch list. I’ve not read/watched any of these yet so you’re not allowed to judge them as recommendations!!

Books

Empireland, Sathnam Sanghera

Mother Mary comes to me, Arundhati Roy

A pleasant kind of heavy and other erotic stories, Aranyani

Governing gender and sexuality in colonial India. Read the book here.

Articles/reports

Colonialism and the criminalisation of homosexuality. Read the report here.

State sponsored homophobia in South Africa, by the Human Rights Watch.

The data behind generation Z’s sex lives, by Mona Chalabi for the Guardian.

Watch

Joyland, now available on Channel 4 online.

Kama Sutra: A tale of love. The 1996 classic is by Mira Nair, Zohran Mamdani’s mum, so it feels like an appropriate time to add this to my list. Oh, and Queen Rekha is in it.