Thank you for writing this. Great post, enjoyable read and your words literally SPOKE TO ME!! Like every part resonated with me so much! Every choice has its consequences and being childree by choice also comes with its fair share of losses which we make peace with never being able to experience certain emotions. I am 24, Indian Muslim, trying to come to a decision of being childfree, deep down I know that's what I am leaning towards but I just don't have the confidence to admit it to myself or anyone else. I was married once in an arranged marriage, to a man who really wanted kids (but not a wife smh) and i remember the dilemma I faced while saying okay to him. I had convinced myself that I would have children FOR my partner, as an act of love, if he promised to be an equal parent. I had made peace with that decision. But after two years of being engaged and a month post marriage he pulled the rug from beneath me and turned into a different person. This is not to generalize, there are better men out there, but in that moment I decided to not make such a life altering decision based on a man, no matter how much you love him. I am terrified of ending up a married or unmarried single mother. And I don't trust men, for very fair reasons.
Having been by your side from the moment you were born you have always shown a maturity beyond your years in your thought and decision processes. This is another journey you are on which will absolutely take the right path because you will choose it x
This is such a great post and thanks for being vulnerable and opening up like this - so many feel the same as you. I know it's cliche to say it but whatever is right for you, is right for you and we definitely need to do away with societal pressures because nothing about society is as it was.
And your concerns are very real. I suffer from fibromyalgia and found the early years particularly tough. PND, like you say, is also very real - and definitely not discussed/researched enough.
It sounds like you have done way more research than most and you will ultimately walk the right path for you. Thanks again for sharing. ❤️
Thanks for sharing, especially the difficulties, with me Danielle. I think you're right about nothing about society is as it was and one of those things is we're all being a bit more honest, a bit more vulnerable in talking about decisions that are ultimately life altering. So I really appreciate this. And thank you, I'll figure it out (and there's no real rush!) ❤️
Thank you for writing this. Great post, enjoyable read and your words literally SPOKE TO ME!! Like every part resonated with me so much! Every choice has its consequences and being childree by choice also comes with its fair share of losses which we make peace with never being able to experience certain emotions. I am 24, Indian Muslim, trying to come to a decision of being childfree, deep down I know that's what I am leaning towards but I just don't have the confidence to admit it to myself or anyone else. I was married once in an arranged marriage, to a man who really wanted kids (but not a wife smh) and i remember the dilemma I faced while saying okay to him. I had convinced myself that I would have children FOR my partner, as an act of love, if he promised to be an equal parent. I had made peace with that decision. But after two years of being engaged and a month post marriage he pulled the rug from beneath me and turned into a different person. This is not to generalize, there are better men out there, but in that moment I decided to not make such a life altering decision based on a man, no matter how much you love him. I am terrified of ending up a married or unmarried single mother. And I don't trust men, for very fair reasons.
Having been by your side from the moment you were born you have always shown a maturity beyond your years in your thought and decision processes. This is another journey you are on which will absolutely take the right path because you will choose it x
This is such a great post and thanks for being vulnerable and opening up like this - so many feel the same as you. I know it's cliche to say it but whatever is right for you, is right for you and we definitely need to do away with societal pressures because nothing about society is as it was.
And your concerns are very real. I suffer from fibromyalgia and found the early years particularly tough. PND, like you say, is also very real - and definitely not discussed/researched enough.
It sounds like you have done way more research than most and you will ultimately walk the right path for you. Thanks again for sharing. ❤️
Thanks for sharing, especially the difficulties, with me Danielle. I think you're right about nothing about society is as it was and one of those things is we're all being a bit more honest, a bit more vulnerable in talking about decisions that are ultimately life altering. So I really appreciate this. And thank you, I'll figure it out (and there's no real rush!) ❤️